So what are the benefits of this position?

A woman owes nothing to anyone. Agree, at least once in your life you dreamed of an easy relationship in which no one puts pressure on you. You don't have to devote all your free time to your man. If you wish, you can have relationships with several young people. And you don't have to feel guilty about a permanent partner (of course, if you don't have a spouse).

Great relationship experience. Communication with the opposite sex allows us to better learn to understand people. Any relationship is a valuable experience that helps us work on our own mistakes.

Good time. Contrary to popular belief, a married lover can give you not only enchanting sex, but also exciting communication. Many couples enjoy visiting theaters, exhibitions, and make small trips. A new person in your life can help you find an incentive for self-development and self-improvement.

Distraction from life. Unfortunately, it is everyday life that causes cooling of feelings in many couples. On this basis, quarrels and misunderstandings often arise. FROM married lover you can forget about all these problems. Meeting with him is a celebration of romance.

Fresh emotions. How often in life there are not enough new feelings that make us take a different look at the world. The wise mistress of a married man enjoys secret dates, finding in this position some special zest and piquancy. If you are looking for just such sensations, then periodically you will have to change your lover.

Material support. By becoming the mistress of a wealthy man, you will be able to receive pleasant gifts from him that you could not afford before. There is nothing shameful in this: you give him positive emotions, and he pampers you with luxurious surprises.

Lover can provide material support

Why does a man need a mistress?

Speaking about the rules of conduct for the mistress of a married man, you should first understand why men decide to cheat on their spouses. What do the representatives of the stronger sex really want from girls? Here are the main causes of adultery:

A mature man wants to feel young and reckless again. To do this, he chooses young and pretty girls who are ready to give him their own time.

The man is tired of permanent relationship that are filled with scandals and quarrels. He is looking for an opportunity to pour out his soul and talk about his own problems. A man expects understanding and moral support from his mistress. This is not a wife who saws him almost every second.

Having lived for several years in marriage, a man realizes that he lacks fresh emotions. At home, he is met by the same woman, dressed in the same housecoat. He knows every inch of her body, thoroughly learned what brings her pleasure in bed. He memorizes the names of her favorite perfumes and TV shows. He simply lacks variety, not only in sex, but also in relationships.

Sometimes a man wants new emotions

Problems in bed. Intimate relationships in the family often gradually come to naught. Unfortunately, first of all, the spouses are to blame for this, who cease to monitor their own figure and appearance. There are also women who are practically indifferent to sex. So a man has to look for satisfaction on the side.

Revenge. Suspecting or convicting a spouse of treason, not every man decides to divorce. Some Husbands Just Have Mistresses Who Help Them improve self-esteem.

Thus, in a mistress, a man first of all looks for what he lacks in his own family. And these are exactly the things that once accompanied the beginning of a relationship with his current wife.

A man never decides to cheat in order to start a new family. From this follows the first rule of behavior of the mistress of a married man: never and under no circumstances should you wait for the continuation of the relationship. By allowing yourself to think that one day he will leave his wife and come to you, you doom yourself to suffering. Do you need it?

Do not try to tie a man to you with some gifts and cute surprises. Set aside ties, lighters, perfumes for a permanent partner with whom you will have a serious relationship. The best gift for a lover is you. In beautiful linen, neat outfit, with good styling and natural make-up. Don't be a caring mom.

Don't pry into your lover's personal life. Asking him about the family, you most likely will not hear any truth. Most often, men tell their mistresses that they live with their spouses, like neighbors, there is no intimate relationship between them, and indeed they sleep in different beds. Naive girls believe in this nonsense and ... invent feelings for themselves on the part of a man. At the same time, the hero-lover himself is having a great time with you and his wife.

A lover should have a private life

Realize that the spouse will be in the first place for a man. Let the feelings fade away, even if they really have problems with sex, but they have been connected for many years life together and possibly common children. In addition, according to numerous surveys, a small percentage of men are ready to sacrifice their usual comfortable living conditions for the sake of a new adventure. Having enjoyed your company, he will go home, where dinner prepared by his wife awaits him. And it's not worth making a tragedy out of this either.

Do not try to become his second wife. If it turns out that you really fell in love with a lover, do not seek to take him away from the family by ironing his shirts or pampering him with gourmet treats. In this situation, his interest in you will gradually fade away, because there will be no intrigue left.

Do not introduce a man to relatives. Most likely, the offer of such a meeting will simply repel the lover, who will decide that you have some kind of views on him. This rule does not apply to friends and acquaintances.

Are you expecting gifts and expensive surprises from your lover? In that case, from the very beginning you should behave like a real lady. When you visit a restaurant for the first time, you should not take your wallet out of your purse and try to pay for yourself. Also teach a man to come to visit you not empty-handed. At the very least, a bouquet of daisies must be present. Be for him a weak and desirable girl.

Do not devote a man to your personal life. You have every right to communicate with other males. Let him know that your relationship will last exactly as long as you want, not him.

Talk to him directly about what you don't like about your relationship. For example, while at your house, he switches the TV to a sports channel. Or he is constantly late for meetings for no good reason. Do not be silent and do not pretend to be a sufferer. A man should know that in front of him is a self-sufficient and self-confident girl. You don't have to play by his rules.

Be busy doing something. In addition to work, you should find an interesting hobby for yourself. visit gym, courses Chinese, a literary circle, go to theaters, etc. A busy life schedule will not only make your life brighter, but also show your lover that he is not the center of the universe for you. Let the man independently adjust to the rhythm of your life and find time for dates.

You must always be a little busy with your own affairs.

A smart girl uses many ways to lure a man, and a wise woman does it in such a way that the man is sure that everything happens solely on his initiative. In no case should he decide that you are seeking him, and not he you.

Don't be hysterical. If a man once canceled a meeting or was unable to attend a holiday because of his wife, you should not make a scandal. Pretend that you simply did not notice this or considered what happened to be a trifle. Otherwise, very soon your relationship will simply come to naught.

Advice for married women who have a married lover

Relationships between not free people are the most convenient option for connections on the side, because in this situation, you both understand that you are not held by any obligations. However, in this situation, the woman has serious problem: she needs to make every effort to ensure that her husband does not find out about the side connection. To do this, you will need to follow these tips:

Never choose as a lover a man who knows your spouse. Often, the best friends of husbands become the object of sympathy for girls. But this option should be immediately abandoned. Sooner or later, the secret will be revealed.

What does a woman who has a lover look like? New emotions overwhelm her. She smiles and flies on the wings of passion. In the eyes of the girl it is noticeable that pleasant changes have taken place in her life. Many ladies begin to pay increased attention to their appearance. An attentive husband will immediately notice that something is wrong with you. Immediately descend from heaven to earth and stop doing combat makeup in the morning. Try to make sure that your face does not express anything superfluous.

Glitter in the eyes can give out the presence of a lover

1. A married lady who has taken a lover begins to come after work much later. Naturally, she informs her husband that she has a lot of things to do, papers that need to be drawn up, meetings, etc. Finding out the true reason for this behavior is quite simple. Use an alternative method.

Get yourself a girlfriend with whom you supposedly will attend various events in the city. It is even worth inviting a friend for a tea party at your home. 1-2 times a week you can justify your absence by meeting with her. If you wish, you can meet with your lover even on weekends. To do this, inform your husband in advance that you are going with Masha / Katya / Sveta to some fashion exhibition that obviously will not interest him. You can even invite your husband to this event. Obviously, he would rather watch football or go fishing with his friends.

A good lover will give you some gifts from time to time. If you have new jewelry or expensive dresses, come up with a believable story about the death of a wealthy distant relative of your mother or aunt. Remember: all labels from things must be thrown away immediately. If the husband suspects something is wrong, he can take a walk to where the goods were purchased. He can easily find out when the purchase was made and how it was paid.

What to do if a lover invites you on a short trip for a few days? Traveling is a smart option. It is desirable that the final destination is not known to your spouse. Naturally, this option is dangerous if your husband is well acquainted with your superiors or employees.

Any correspondence with a lover must be conducted on a work computer. Use your home laptop exclusively for other purposes. Otherwise, you run the risk of forgetting to leave the social network one day, and the entire dialogue will be successfully read by the jealous.

Try not to communicate with your lover on the phone at a time when the husband is at home. If there is an urgent need to call the object of passion, think that you urgently need to go to the nearest store for bread. Next time, go take out the trash or take your dog for a walk.

After a passionate evening with a lover, do not rush to go to the bathroom. An observant spouse may think that you are trying to quickly wash away the traces of a vicious relationship.

Do not forget that you need to fulfill your marital duty in bed. If you start constantly denying your husband intimacy, he will immediately understand what is happening. Try not to change intimate behavior and not demonstrate new skills to your spouse.

Do not allow your lover to leave traces of your sexual games on the body. Scratches, hickeys are direct evidence of your extramarital affair. Any arguments are powerless against such evidence.

A husband can find out about a lover by finding traces of love games on the body

Be in touch at any time. When away from home, never turn off your phone. Pick up the phone, even while in bed with your lover. Confusion can easily be explained by being in the gym, rushing to a meeting, missing the last bus, and so on. In this case, the risk of suspicion on the part of the spouse will be minimized.

Try to make sure that the lover does not have any evidence of your relationship. We are talking about joint photographs or even videos ... There are situations when a woman, having decided to leave her lover, is blackmailed by him. Protect yourself in advance, because you can never predict what might await you.

Pamper your spouse delicious dinners Give enough time to your children. Remember that a lover is a temporary phenomenon. And the family requires full attention from you.

Don't tell literally anyone about your lover. Even the best friend can be a rare bitch. Be prudent. You can only trust yourself with such serious secrets. Of course, in no case should you start a personal diary.

Never give in to the temptation to confess to your husband of infidelity. Even if he somehow finds out that there are rumors that you have a lover. Even if the lover decides to annoy you and calls his spouse (and this happens)! In the most unfortunate situation, you can pretend to be a victim and say that your lover slandered you because you refused to enter into an intimate relationship with him.

Do not carry condoms in your purse if you and your husband do not use this method of contraception. It is better to buy condoms just before a date.

Do not, under any circumstances, bring your lover to your home. Even if the spouse is on a long business trip, you may be noticed by “friendly” neighbors who will gladly tell your spouse about what is happening. The ideal option is dates on neutral territory.

How to take a lover out of the family?

Unfortunately, romantic women are not always able to maintain their composure. Many ladies fall hopelessly in love with married lovers. What to do in that situation if you have really strong feelings for this particular man? According to statistics, no more than 5-7 percent of unfaithful spouses go to mistresses. But there is always a chance. The main thing is to follow wise advice:

Remember that if a man has not left the family after a year of your relationship, he will never do this. Therefore, it is necessary to act much earlier.

Try to study your lover well. He will probably constantly tell you about himself, problems in relations with his wife. Learn his habits and personality traits.

Let him know that he can trust you. Be an attentive listener and interlocutor. Keep all his secrets and problems in strict confidence. Do not refuse the help and support he needs if you are able to do something for him.

Remember that a man will leave his wife only for the sake of a mistress who will be much better than her. Therefore, you need to make time for your appearance, go to the gym and always look as neat as possible.

Take care of intellectual enrichment. Men love women who can keep up a smart conversation on any life topic. At the same time, you should not try to show your superiority.

Try not to disturb the man with your own problems. He should not see your tears and tantrums. With you, he should constantly feel warmth and joy.

If the object of your passion is over 40 years old, you should exercise maximum caution. You need to determine what this man really wants. Accustomed to many years of marriage, he can only go to that mistress who can provide him with the most comfortable living conditions.

Learn different sexual techniques. You have to become a real master in this matter. Returning home, a man should feel that something is missing.

Try not to touch the financial issue. If you need to find out the income level of a loved one, do it indirectly.

- Never wonder about the future of your relationship. Otherwise, the man will immediately understand that you are very much in love with him. And that means the game is lost.

• If a man has children, try to show a sincere interest in this issue. Surely he will be happy to talk about his kids. Even if a man has fallen out of love with his wife, he will never give up his children. Your inquiries will show your lover that, in the event of your reunion, you will gladly accept his daughter or son. And no problems like "The new wife does not allow to see the children from the first marriage" will not arise.

How to break up with a married lover?

If you realize that your relationship is hopeless, and over time you become more attached to a man, think about how to break this painful connection for you. First of all, you need to understand that your leaving is a conscious choice that will allow you to start new life without the pain. If you decide to break up, don't change your mind. Do not expect a married lover to change his mind and leave the family. Most likely, after a while he will simply find a new mistress. Remember that a girl's youth passes very quickly. If you cannot imagine your life without a full-fledged family, give up married lovers once and for all.

The first few weeks after breaking up with a married lover, try to spend in the company of people close to you. You may need to change your phone number (in case it rings). A good way out of the situation would be a short trip to another city or country. There you can unwind and relax mentally.

You should not withdraw into yourself and think that your former man – best person in the world and you won't find anything like it anymore. Understand that your love would not torment you. If you are lonely, allow yourself to start a new romance with a free young man. Even if he does not become your husband, you are guaranteed to receive a charge of positive energy.

We hope that this article has helped you get rid of many of the problems that mistresses of married men face. In any case, you should start taking things a little easier. You are the creator of your own destiny!

Or am I not so understood? Apparently, it would be more logical that if a husband sleeps with a constant mistress whom he loves, then he does not cheat on her with his wife either. Isn't it right? He attributed a strong man here in vain, because. Everyone's motives for leaving may be different, but I a priori do not believe in the piety of men in such matters. But there may be exceptions. Maybe he was leaving, wishing for himself, and not just his wife, his financial situation, because with a wife and children a lot of obligations, but with a mistress you can do without them, sending her to hell once. So this is definitely not a strong man, but absolutely, nah, typical.

Permanent mistress

I don’t know if this is love or just fucking, but if I were the wife of my lover or, on the contrary, my husband, I would definitely not forgive, since this is no longer a demon, but a constant planned betrayal (phone calls, contracts, SMS and telephone conversations - it's all behind the backs of our family). The betrayal has already gone not physical, but spiritual, I think about him all the time, I tried to leave, but I could not endure even a day - such an addiction is hellish for him too.

I don’t even know how to break such a connection, everything suits us and sex is brighter every time. Usually I quickly cool down, but here it was specifically hooked on him too (I see, I feel).

Relations with a constant mistress can last for years: a man is in no hurry to leave his wife, and they are not going to leave his mistress. Why does a man need such a relationship? If they are primarily about sex, this usually means that in family life a man is satisfied with everything except sex.

Important

A constant mistress relieves him of the need to "shoot" a new woman every time. And if a man is connected with his mistress not only by sex, but also by feelings, the cause of such a “double life” can be a conflict of feelings and duty.

Still, the wife is not a stranger, how to leave her? Especially if there are common children. Sometimes a man is prevented from leaving his wife not so much by a sense of duty as by the fear that his financial situation may be shaken.

With a divorce, the division of property will begin, and perhaps you will have to pay alimony ...

But sooner or later, the truth is revealed, and the woman either moves into one of the two "main" categories, or breaks off relations with the man. Of course, each situation is unique, but wives should not immediately blame their constant mistresses for all their troubles.

In the overwhelming majority of cases, the initiator of such a situation is a man, and the relationship "on two fronts" is his conscious decision. But in any case, the presence of a permanent mistress should alert: this is a signal that a man is looking “on the side” for something that he lacks in family relationships, be it sex, home comfort, or even banal heart-to-heart conversations.

Better to be a permanent lover than a temporary one

It is easier to leave everything as it is than to bear the losses in a divorce and then re-establish the economy with another woman. Finally, it also happens that a man loves both his wife and his mistress. He is not sure who he will choose in the end, so he is taking time to find out which feelings will turn out to be stronger and more lasting. The catch is that many men are not really going to make a choice: they are quite happy with the current situation.
Usually a permanent mistress is either a woman who voluntarily agrees to such a relationship and does not aim for the title of woman No. 1 in a man’s life, or a woman who blindly believes in a man’s promises to part with his wife and meekly waits - sometimes for years. There is also a third category of permanent mistresses - those who do not even suspect the existence of a legal wife.

Who is a constant lover for a man?

The whole story about him - only rainbow colors, about yourself - in black It seems that even in the situation of his double life, you do not see any guilt behind him? valerya piterskaya I answer in order .... no children .... we live with my grandmother (we could live with him, but we didn’t want to ....) to be honest that before the wedding I cheated on him when we were still dating, so most likely he just wanted to so that I can be in his shoes. It should be noted that he does not remind me of that betrayal.

Family life is built by two people. It becomes very painful when it turns out that her husband has appeared. A one night stand or a couple of dates may not upset the wife as much as the news that the mistress is permanent. She can already be attributed to an opponent with whom something needs to be done

The women's site site focuses on the fact that a family is built by two people. Being in a relationship, a man involuntarily succumbs to the influence of his woman. That is why it is often said that male infidelity does not occur without the protection of the wife. A woman can inadvertently start doing something that will suggest the idea of ​​having a mistress.

A permanent lover is serious. We are talking about another woman with whom a man has been dating for a long time, sleeping, maybe even cohabiting during those periods when he leaves his family. Is it worth worrying about the fact that he can go to his mistress? This is possible, since the man has already become attached to his mistress and so far everything suits him in her. On the other hand, change is not easy for men. Even leaving for an already famous woman is stressful if he is used to living with another lady, who obviously creates a completely different comfort in the house.

What do the statistics say?

If you feel bad, then you should understand that you are not the only one in your trouble. Dry statistics speaks volumes. That about 59% of men cheat on their wives at least once, while themselves in no more than 41% of cases. Only 15% of marriages break down due to infidelity.

This suggests that men are more likely to look for what is missing in the family in their mistresses, while women are accustomed to endure. They tolerate not only the shortcomings and bad behavior of their men, but also the presence of mistresses. In total, 15% of divorces happen out of 59%. Imagine how strongly women cling to their husbands, when they should be thrown and let go on all four sides.

Why is it difficult for a woman to part with a husband who is cheating on her? This is due to the upbringing of women, as well as the fears that arise in her at the thought that she will be left alone.

Dear women, means mass media and the ideology of society has “powdered” your brains to such an extent that you can no longer think about anything else but about men, about creating a family, about having children, and sometimes about the wealth and success of your man. If you go beyond all these slogans and propaganda and look at the world, you can understand that men and women are people. Just as women have problems, so do men. Just as women have a bad mood, so men often get upset. Just as women have a desire to be loved, so men are looking for loving companions.

Men and women are people who are no different from each other (we do not take into account their anatomical features). If we turn to the human nature of each individual, then everyone wants the same thing, they suffer and get sick the same way, etc. Man and woman are the same on the human level. And what do the media do? They enthrone either men or women. They humiliate men, they humiliate women. They come up with various myths that men are few compared to women. Society has come up with traditions, the absurdity of which people do not notice at all. For example, a woman must obey her husband. Why? What does it give? Why not vice versa? In nature, not all types of female animals obey males.

Dear women, understand all the absurdity of your thoughts and actions that you perform in relation to men. Perhaps the gentlemen at first like your games. But then they get fed up with them. They want to live with adequate and reasonable women, and not with bitches or hysterics. Have you read that "men love bitches"? Well, sexually, they love to use them. Have you heard that hysterics are more fun to live with? Probably, the first couple of months are fun, and then the man begins to look for a calmer and more adequate partner.

You are being fooled. You are stuffed with knowledge that does not help. Are you satisfied with your personal life? Do you have a man? Do you have a strong family? Do your children live in a complete family? If you answered “no” to one of the questions, then throw out all those magazines and books that guide you. This knowledge does not help you. So why do you think they will help you in the future?

And the last thing: dear women, understand that men are people just like you. They are not gods, not heroes, not even princes. They are earthly people like you, who have their flaws, weak spots and black days. Do not elevate them above yourself. Do not make them the meaning of your life. You can just as well make your girlfriend the meaning of your life - there will be no difference. A man cannot be the meaning of life, just like a woman for a man. This is another illusion, which is better to get rid of.

And despite this, a woman would prefer to stay with an unfaithful husband than to part with him. The excuse that she does this for the sake of the children is more of a front. A woman is more likely to be afraid of loneliness, loss of financial assistance, or the possibility of being left on the street, because she does not have her own home. And she thinks about children only after all that, because of which she herself is afraid.

Reasons for infidelity

When a husband cheats, he has a constant mistress, the question arises: what pushed him to cheat? You need reasons to justify yourself. In order to justify the husband and forgive him, you need reasons that indicate that the wife herself is to blame. Let's take a look at the most common causes infidelities:

1. Cold feelings. This phenomenon is not just frequent, but constant. It is impossible to passionately and vividly love a person all your life. Sooner or later, any man cools down with feelings for his wife. And what is he doing now? Does not leave his wife, but is looking for a mistress. Of course, a man has feelings for a new woman. While they burn in him, he clings to her, while not leaving his wife. Interesting solution cool feelings found a man, because of which two women are now suffering.
2. Search for a new one. Like feeling, the feeling of novelty fades with age. A man inside and out recognizes his wife. He gets bored. Instead of diversifying his life with new hobbies or work, he gets a mistress. Undoubtedly, he receives a lot of emotions and impressions. But this will continue until he recognizes his constant mistress very well.
3. Friends example. If a man is surrounded by friends who are divorced or have a free lifestyle, they can push him to cheat. Often friends directly say that it is impossible to love one woman, you need to have at least one mistress, etc. There are friends who brag about their adventures to the left and their ability to sleep with a lot of women. If a man is satisfied with his sex life, then you will not catch his friends with such speeches. But if a man is dissatisfied, jealous of his friends, then he can have a mistress.
4. Revenge for the betrayal of his wife. This also happens very often. If the wife has changed, which the man knows about, then he may not be able to stand it and go to the left himself. A permanent mistress in this case appears suddenly for the man himself. He just wanted to sleep with someone, thus taking revenge, but his mistress was clearly interested in something. Another constant mistress can be his old acquaintance and even a former passion, with whom he is still interested in spending time.
5. dissatisfaction with his wife. Moreover, dissatisfaction can be not only at the level of sex, but also because of her qualities of character and behavior. If a man is very upset or dissatisfied because of something, then he begins to seek compensation on the side.
6. Alcohol. Often, men themselves attribute everything to alcohol. But let's think soberly: alcohol can lead to treason at one time. But the appearance of a permanent mistress does not occur under the influence of alcohol. A man needs to become an alcoholic for such an excuse to be valid.
7. Abstinence. A man can go to the left due to long abstinence. This often happens in families where the wife is pregnant, has recently given birth, devotes too much time to children and work, or has simply already forgotten about her husband. Soon the man breaks down and begins to look for ways to satisfy his sexual desires.

Unlike a temporary lover, a permanent lover really poses a danger to the family. The man had already spent a lot of time with her, perhaps he had time to live, and all these factors did not divorce them. He already lives with his constant mistress, as with his second wife. Of course, he does not know her well, since the first wife does not allow lovers to be together for a long time.

A constant mistress is a danger. However, you should not be upset. If the mistress was good enough to go to her, the man would have already done it. Since he stays with you and does not divorce, it means that he still needs you, is valuable in some way, he is dependent on you. But you shouldn't exalt yourself too much. If you consider your husband your property and belittle his mistress, he may, in spite of your words, go to her.

Surely you want to restore the family, despite the fact that the man offended you greatly with his actions. If so, then we give you 11 tips on how to do it:

1. Understand yourself. Do you really want to be with your husband or are you driven by your fears? You should understand why you want to restore the family, so as not to be even more disappointed and not waste time on unnecessary things.
2. Realize the lack of uniqueness of your situation. You are clearly not the only woman who is faced with her husband's infidelities. You can read about how other ladies returned them on the Internet. And also remember that you have other people besides your husband: children, relatives, friends, etc. Ask them for support in a difficult situation for yourself.
3. Study your opponent. Why did she attract your husband? This factor should not be ignored. A man fell for his mistress precisely because this factor is in her, but it is not in you. If you develop this factor in yourself, then a man can leave his mistress.
4. Get yourself in order. Often women in marriage stop looking after themselves. They gain weight, stop using makeup, do not take care of themselves, do not dress beautifully. Naturally, the other woman has attracted your husband because she obviously looks after herself.
5. Don't yell or criticize your husband. If you constantly meet a man with reproaches and scandals, then it is understandable why he found himself another home.
6. Smile. A man should see you joyful and happy, which gives him the feeling that you are happy with life next to him. If he constantly sees your sad face, he may not know how to fix it, so he will meet with his mistress.
7. Pay attention to your husband. Undoubtedly, cleaning the house and raising children should be done. However, if at the same time you do not pay attention to your husband, he will obviously look for it on the side.
8. Don't take on all the responsibilities. A man should be obliged to do some housework and be indebted to the family, for example, to earn money. A man should spend time with children. In other words, don't take a man's job.
9. Have your own activities. This will allow you to leave a man alone while he is at home, not to nag him constantly, not to demand constant attention from him, and also to develop and be always interesting.
10. . Let the husband be satisfied in bed. And this applies not only to those moments when he gets an orgasm.
11. Force him. You don't have to explicitly date men or flirt in front of your husband, which can make him want to do the same with other women. Just different ways hint to your husband that other men are interested in you, pay attention, communicate, etc. Let him understand that other men are still interested in you and he may lose you.

Outcome

Adultery is a common occurrence. However, the fate of the family depends on both spouses. If you wish to restore the family, then you will have to renew relations with your husband, become his closest and most best friend. Only a strong family cannot be destroyed by any mistress.

Usually men do not think about who a mistress is and why she needs to be turned on. As soon as a man is faced with a lack of affection, love and attention from the opposite sex, then he immediately begins to look for a passion.

However, it is not always necessary to have a mistress, especially if the reason is bad with another woman. The male site site will figure out the essence of whether you should have a mistress and why you need it at all.

What kind of woman becomes a mistress?

Men should not be too deceived when they manage to seduce women and. Ask yourself: what kind of woman is ready to become a mistress? If you put yourself in the place of this lady, you will understand why you do not want to leave your wives and go to your mistresses.

A woman is ready to become a lover who:

• not sure of myself. If a woman had high self-esteem or she was sure that she was worthy of love and the full attention of a man, then she would not have started a relationship with a married man or would have parted with him in a couple of months;
• not ready for . It seems to be good for a lover that his mistress is not ready for a serious relationship. However, the man himself should understand that a woman will consider the opposite. Not being ready for a serious relationship, she will force him to part with his wife, marry her, have children together, etc. And the man will see that the mistress is absolutely not ready for the life that she is trying to create with him, and there will only be fool him and ruffle his nerves;
• not in demand with the opposite sex. If a woman rarely notices signs of attention on herself, then most likely there are certain reasons. The lover can sleep with her. However, even soon sex will get boring, because a woman is no longer interesting in anything.

A man can be both free and married, trying to find a mistress. However, one should not deceive oneself, because rarely self-sufficient, self-confident, happy women agree to a secret relationship. Mistresses often become insecure, restrained, limited and uninteresting ladies who understand somewhere inside themselves that it is better to accept the role of a mistress, otherwise you can be left alone.

Why do you need a mistress?

The fact that men are polygamous is known not only by women, but also by men themselves. And no matter how surprising it may be, but men are not always exposed to their polygamy just because they are guided by their nature. Often men solve some of their own personal problems by taking lovers.

Why are mistresses needed? In fact, a mistress is not a woman whom a man loves, but one with the help of which he solves his personal issues. Some men increase their own self-esteem through the number of sexual partners. Other men simply run from the problems that have arisen in front of them. Still others are looking for a way to get away from the ugly reality of failed love with his wife.

This is why married men or boyfriends who still love ex-partners take lovers. They do not like new companions, but only try to escape from those problems when reality tells them about their mistakes that they made with other women.

Why are mistresses needed? Just to forget for a while about what surrounds in Everyday life. Men want to be loved and needed again, but they themselves are not ready to give this to their mistresses if they are already married or in love with other ladies. No matter how the lover strives to fall in love with a man, no matter how good she is, the man will no longer be her companion, because he has given himself into the hands of another woman. He needs a mistress just to be distracted for a while and again feel free and male power. But in reality, as soon as the one with which his heart is connected appears, he will immediately follow her.

Therefore, it is up to you to decide whether you want to be a way for a man to escape from reality and failures, or, nevertheless, you will build a relationship with a man who will be free both in soul and body from other women, who will love you and want to be only with you.

When getting yourself a mistress, you should remember that she is a temporary phenomenon. If you are a single man, then you will not have any problems with the appearance of a mistress. But if you have a wife, then understand that a “temporary phenomenon” can give you a lot of trouble.

Let us return to the fact that women who can no longer have normal relationships with men often become lovers. They are somehow restrained, unsure of themselves, downtrodden and uninteresting. However, this does not mean that they do not want love and serious relationships (which they most likely do not know how to build). Therefore, over time, the mistress will begin to insist that you divorce your wife and marry her. And if you don't, then it will start hurting you:

1. She will tell your wife everything. To prevent this from happening, it is better to never give out personal information about yourself, do not show where you live and what your wife looks like. Also, never give your mistress your phone in hand so that she does not look at your wife's phone number.
2. She will tell your friends or work colleagues everything. To prevent this from happening, it is better not to introduce your mistress to your friends and colleagues at all.
3. She will start chasing you and calling you. That's why you should always have a separate phone for your mistress, which you will leave in the car or at work, but never bring home.
4. She will threaten you. It's the most innocent thing a mistress can do.

So that the “temporary phenomenon” does not become permanent or even dangerous for your family life, it is better to always protect your mistress from your real life and never let her in there. And it’s even better not to start it or meet infrequently or only a few times.

Who is a mistress?

And yet mistresses can bring joy to men, which is why they are turned on for the first time. In order to be able to answer correctly the question “Why does a man take a mistress?”, You should clearly understand who she is. What is the role of the mistress? What does a mistress give a man that he uses her services?

Firstly, a mistress gives a man what he lacks in his family from his beloved woman: sex, love, affection, female attention and submission. In marriage, many ladies cease to be women, they become wives who do not take care of themselves, do not pay attention and affection to their man, constantly demand something from him, scandal, criticize, etc. A man gets tired of being stressed not only at work but also at home. Therefore, he is looking for a place where he will finally relax and have fun.

Secondly, the mistress is a woman (not a wife, not the mother of his children, not a girlfriend, but a woman!), Next to whom he feels like a man. This minus can also be traced in families where a man still wants to appear in his own and other people's eyes as a man. If in his own family his wife often does not notice anything masculine in him, constantly reproaching him and calling him “lazy”, “loser”, “stupid”, etc., and at work there are other men who can be more successful, than he, then next to his mistress he always feels courageous and strong. A mistress is not the person with whom serious issues are resolved. A mistress is a member of the opposite sex with whom they simply play love games, one of which is "I am a man, and you are a woman."

Thirdly, a mistress gives a flash of passion, lust and other feelings. Being a family man and having lived for many years with one woman, a man ceases to feel any living feelings in himself: love, happiness, joy. This, of course, does not mean that these feelings are not in him, they are simply dulled. But it is the new woman - the mistress - that gives him the opportunity to feel himself again and all the feelings that have subsided. Notice that it is next to his mistress that a man suddenly remembers that he loves his wife. But if he gives up a new passion, then he is afraid of losing the feelings that she evoked in him not only in relation to her, but also in relation to his loved ones and relatives.

As you can see, the monotony, everyday life and the husband and wife's cessation of playing “man-woman” games lead to the fact that the man is looking for help on the side. Yes, that's right: he is looking for help in another woman who will let him feel what he lacks - his own sexuality, masculinity, strength and sensuality. Perhaps if there was some distance between husband and wife, they did not reduce all their conversations to solving problems or mutual criticism, and also aroused feelings in each other, then the man would not have to look for a mistress to fill in all the gaps. Of course, this is not about the fact that the wife is to blame for the betrayal of her husband. Cheating is a problem for both men and women, and if they understand that it is possible to avoid the presence of third parties in a relationship, then some effort will have to be made to fill those gaps that gape like wounds in a relationship.

If you have a mistress, then remember the following: let her be in your life as long as you feel good with her. As soon as she began to take out your brain, cause harm or spoil your mood in various ways, you need to part with her. A mistress is needed for joy and celebration, and not for another hassle. If your mistress is no longer coping with her duties, then it's time to "fire" her.

Should I have a mistress?

Usually, men do not think about the question of whether it is necessary to have a mistress, but simply begin to look for her among their environment or through dating sites. But here psychologists advise to stop.

Undoubtedly, a mistress can be useful. It will bring novelty into your life, make it brighter and richer, distract you from the gray everyday life and problems with your wife, give you something that you have never received or have not received for a long time. A mistress can even improve your relationship with your wife to some extent, as you will finally become a happy person who has everything he needs.

But at the same time, a lover is also a person who wishes herself happiness and dreams of a family, stable life with her beloved man. If you are not ready to give her this, then over time she will get tired of pleasing and pleasing you, without receiving anything in return. The situation can become even more acute if you promised her that you would divorce your wife and marry her, or said that you loved her. The mistress will begin to dream and hope that she will definitely become your wife. Over time, she will get tired of hoping in vain, because of which she will begin to quarrel with you, take out the brain, threaten, etc.

Before you start a mistress, think:

1. Do you need it? Maybe you should restore relations with your wife and make them such that you can get everything from her? If you are a free person, maybe you need to look not for a mistress, but for a beloved woman?
2. Are you ready to face female whims, demands and blackmail? How will you decide conflict situations with a mistress?
3. How can you act so that your lover knows right away what to expect in a relationship with you?

Outcome

A mistress can captivate with her novelty and passion, but she will be a temporary phenomenon that can bring a lot of problems into a man’s life. Before starting it, you need to consider the possible risks and ways to eliminate them. And if you don’t feel like taking a steam bath, then it’s better to abandon the idea of ​​​​having a mistress and think about what other ways to improve your life.

For a lawful wife, a constant mistress is a great danger. The appearance of a husband of another woman puts the marriage in jeopardy. The fate of the family depends on two, and you are able to push your lover to the right decision.

A constant lover is first and foremost a rival, and no matter how dangerous she is, you must fight for your happiness. If your spouse is still with you, then everything is not serious. After our advice, you will be able to sort out your feelings and return the wrong one!

No one is immune from adultery. Dry statistics says that 59% of the representatives of the stronger sex at least once cheated on their soul mate, while for the fair half this figure is lower - 41%. Cheating leads to divorce only 15% of the time.

Reasons for infidelity

• Cooled feelings between spouses.

This is due to habituation. This problem occurs frequently if people do not rest from each other.

• Desire for something new.

This reason is also associated with getting used to each other and to family life in general. Everyone needs variety both in everyday life and in bed.

• Life of friends.

There are a large number of divorced or free representatives of the stronger sex in the country who lead an active life, meet girls (sometimes several). For a married person, this can cause envy. If a man is 100% satisfied with his sex life, he can show his friends how good it is to be a family man.

• Revenge by treason for infidelity.

Cheating on the part of the weaker sex is common in order to take revenge on your soul mate. The husband is also able to take this step.

• Dissatisfaction with your sexual partner.

Often with the advent of a child, sexual life becomes more modest. Sex becomes monotonous and rarely fantasies.

• Prolonged abstinence.

If a person experiences prolonged abstinence: both psychological and physiological problems appear. The husband can go "to the left" to "let off steam". No need to punish the lack of sex.

• Alcohol.

Every body reacts to alcohol differently. Many people are out of control. This is not an excuse.

A permanent mistress is more likely to destroy a family. A man is attached to his mistress, as well as to you. A married man's mistress becomes his second wife; also waiting for him, preparing dinner, and sometimes raising a child. A mistress can take your loved one away from you by using tricks.

But, if the beloved is still with you, then all is not lost. Betrayal can come to any family, regardless of financial and social status. Our advice will help you restore your old relationship with your lover and save your family.

1. Understand yourself!

Understand whether you really want to return the person who cheated on you. Think not about public opinion or the fate of children. Rely only on your desires. If yes, then go ahead for the heart of your beloved!

2. You are not alone!

When a similar situation happens, the representative of the weaker sex often closes in her own thoughts, she is scared and it seems that the whole world is opposed to her. No need to despair! Think about the people and things that make you smile and get out of bed every morning. For their sake, you must get together and not lose heart! You don't want your kids to see you sad and depressed, do you? Of course not! A constant lover is not a reason to give up.
Don't forget about your friends! You must have someone you can rely on.
With support, you can begin the "operation to restore the family."

3. Study your opponent!

Understand what exactly the beloved found and why she is better and worse than you. Pay attention to its advantages and disadvantages. The hardest thing in this case is to cope with your emotions, but you will succeed. Start working on yourself.

No need to call her or write SMS, do not make scandals. This can only aggravate the relationship with your loved one.

4. Look at yourself in the mirror!

Mommy, on a long maternity leave, forgets to take care of herself: “Why do you put on makeup or wash your hair? No one will see this, but the husband loves it anyway! Your husband sees thousands of beautiful women passing by every day, and involuntarily compares it with what awaits him at home. A mistress is always well-groomed and beautiful.

Muslim women, looking at our women, do not understand: how can you put on makeup for other men, but walk in a greasy robe at home in front of your own? For some reason, after the wedding, women calm down and stop taking care of themselves properly. Laziness leads to dire consequences.

Take care of yourself! Change your hair, get a manicure, go on a diet or go to the gym, buy a couple of new things. Learn to like yourself. If you are not delighted with yourself, then how can your spouse want you? Think about it!
If next to a man beautiful woman It makes no sense for him to look at others.

5. Don't whine or criticize!

Your loved one earns money all day at an unloved job, constantly on the nerves (again compiling reports, the boss yelled for being late). In the evening he comes home, and there, instead of a loving wife, a “circular saw” is waiting for him. Count how many times a day you criticize your missus with or without reason. I can bet that the number will come up is not small. Would you like to live like this? He is looking for warmth and understanding on the side.
Try not to criticize, but find a reason to praise your spouse. Try to be gentle with your opinion. Gently help your loved one solve any problem.

Guide, don't force! The desire to praise the husband should be sincere and related to his work or hobby. Every man wants his wife to share his hobbies.

6. Smile more often!

Give a smile to your family and the whole world. Learn to enjoy the simple things! It is much more pleasant to look at a smiling woman than at an eternally dissatisfied one. A smile is the key to every person's heart. Your loved one is no exception!

7. Cleanliness is not the main thing!

Sometimes when raising children or in pursuit of perfect cleanliness, you forget about your lover and do not pay attention to him at all. But a man also wants warmth and affection! Try to hug and kiss your loved one more often, say nice words. You should not follow him around, blowing off dust particles, but you can do little things like get up to make coffee in the morning or buy him something for no reason (not necessarily something expensive, but from the heart). Don't spend all your time cleaning and cooking. Spend it on taking care of your family.

8. Don't take it all on yourself!

There is only one man in the house and it is not you. In any matter, the man should have the last word, only then he will feel significant. This does not mean at all that you should relieve yourself of all responsibility, but it is still worth giving it more to your soulmate. Allow yourself to be a little girl next to your man. Husband will appreciate it.

9. Find yourself a hobby!

Try to find common interests with your life partner (if they have not accumulated over the years of living together). You should not forget about yourself either, find a hobby, show your soul mate that you are also an interesting person. Interest your husband in yourself, then he will not even think about having a mistress. Fulfill your childhood dream: take up dancing, go to vocal lessons, embroider a picture. Stop postponing everything.

10. Diversify your sex life!

Often it is because of dissatisfaction in bed that a man decides to cheat. He lacks the passion or activity of a partner. Try some role play or do it in an unfamiliar place. Think not only about yourself, but also about what your loved one would like. Pamper him without denying the most frank fantasies. If in sexual life everything will be fine, the family will also get better.

11. Make him jealous!

Let your spouse know that you are not an attachment to him. He needs to see that you are interesting to someone else. Men are owners and protect "their territory". So you can remind your husband of the time when he wooed you. This will improve your relationship. The main thing is not to cross the line, do not confuse light flirting with another man and betrayal on your part. This can lead to irreparable consequences.

The most important

A permanent lover cannot destroy a truly strong and loving family. You must learn to hear and listen to each other, but for this you need to work. None of us is immune from adultery.