The relationship between a man and a woman, both in the personal and in the social sphere, has always worried domestic and foreign writers, publicists, and philosophers. The themes of the writings of this direction provide an opportunity to consider various manifestations of these relations: from friendship and love to conflict and mutual rejection. The diversity of relationships between a man and a woman in a social, cultural, family context, including spiritual ties between a child and parents, can also become a subject of reflection. Extensive literary material contains examples of understanding the subtlest nuances of the spiritual coexistence of two worlds, called "he" and "she".

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Bibliography

1. Goncharov I.A., novel "Oblomov"
2. Jack London, Martin Eden
3. Dostoevsky F.M., novel "Crime and Punishment"
4. Kuprin A.I., the story "Garnet Bracelet"
5. Lermontov M.Yu., novel "A Hero of Our Time"
6. Leskov N.S., story "Lady Macbeth Mtsensk district»
7. Pushkin A.S., story " Captain's daughter»
8. Pushkin A.S., novel "Eugene Onegin"
9. Chernyshevsky N.G., novel "What to do?"
10. Chekhov A.P., story "Ionych"
11. Chekhov A.P., story “Which of the three?”
12. Chekhov A.P., story "About love"
13. Chekhov A.P., story "The Jumper"

"He and she" - all arguments

Friendship between a man and a woman in literature

Contrary to popular belief, friendship between a man and a woman is possible. True, often it develops into love.

Arguments:

Dostoevsky F.M., novel "Crime and Punishment" (Sonya and Rodion)

Goncharov I.A., novel "Oblomov" (Olga and Stolz)

Often, under the guise of friendship, love can be hidden.

An example from the literature:

Sometimes, cold love leaves a pleasant aftertaste and turns into friendship.

Chernyshevsky N.G., novel "What to do" (Vera and Lopukhov)

A man and a woman can be friends and spouses at the same time

Chernyshevsky N.G., novel "What to do" (Vera and Kirsanov)

Kuprin A.I., the story "Garnet Bracelet" (Vera Sheina and her husband)

Chekhov A.P., story "About love" (Anna Alekseevna and her husband)

Love in literature

It differs from love in that it cools quickly

Arguments:

Lermontov M.Yu., novel "A Hero of Our Time" (Pechorin and Bela)

Chekhov A.P., story "Ionych" (Dmitry Startsev)

A man in love easily sacrifices relationships

Karamzin N.M., the story "Poor Lisa" (Erast)

If love was not real, a person quickly puts up even with the loss of his soul mate

Pushkin A.S., novel "Eugene Onegin" (Olga Larina)

True love

One and for life, fills life with meaning

Arguments:

Karamzin N.M., the story "Poor Liza" (Liza)

For her sake, a person is ready for anything.

Arguments:

Jack London, novel "Martin Eden" (Martin got rich for his beloved)

Pushkin A.S., the story "The Captain's Daughter" (Grinev asked the enemy for help)

Sincere love is manifested in the ability to accept all the shortcomings of the chosen one.

An example from the literature:

Chekhov A.P., story "He and she"

imaginary love

Sometimes a person only thinks that he has found a soul mate, but in reality it is not so.

Arguments:

Chekhov A.P., story "Ionych"

Karamzin N.M., the story "Poor Lisa"

Love or money?

People often have to face such a choice, but everyone makes his own decision.

Arguments:

Chekhov A.P., story “Which of the three?” (Nadia and Baron preferred money to feelings)

Chernyshevsky N.G., novel "What to do?" (Vera was not interested in money, she could not marry a man, just because he is rich)

pretend love

Pursuing selfish goals, people pretend to love

Arguments:

Chekhov A.P., story “Which of the three?” (Nadia and Baron)

Leskov N.S., story "Lady Macbeth of the Mtsensk District" (worker Sergey)

Blind love

Drowning in feelings, people do not notice that behind the mask of the "soulmate" hides a selfish monster

Arguments:

Leskov N.S., the story "Lady Macbeth of the Mtsensk District" (Katerina)

Chekhov A.P., story "The Jumper" (Dymov)

Unappreciated / unconscious love

Often people cannot appreciate the feelings of others and realize their own

Arguments:

Chekhov A.P., the story "The Jumper" (Olga realized late that her husband deserved a different attitude towards himself)

Kuprin A.I., the story "Garnet Bracelet" (Vera realized late that she was lucky to meet the love that every woman dreams of)

Lermontov M.Yu., novel "A Hero of Our Time" (Pechorin realized late that he needed Vera)

Unrequited love

Makes a person unhappy, deprives the meaning of life

Arguments

Bunin I.A., story "Sunstroke"

Kuprin A.I., the story "Garnet Bracelet" (Zheltkov)

Mutual love

It does not always bring happiness, because obstacles often arise in the way of lovers

Arguments:

Chekhov A.P., story "About Love" (Alekhin and married Anna Alekseevna)

Jack London, novel "Martin Eden" (Parents forbade Ruth to communicate with Martin)

Fight for love

And yet often happiness in lovers depends on themselves.

Arguments:

Pushkin A.S., the story "The Captain's Daughter" (Grinev did not leave his beloved, despite the demands of his father)

Jack London, novel "Martin Eden" (Ruth went on about her parents)

Chekhov A.P., the story "About love" (Alekhin did not dare to destroy the marriage)

Chernyshevsky N.G., novel "What to do?" (Kirsanov confessed to a friend that he was in love with his wife, and soon married Vera)

He and she.

To love is not to look at each other, but together, in the same direction.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

• Approximate topics, problems in the direction.

• Related quotes.

Direction "He and she"- very versatile in nature. A wide range of topics can be suggested here. various shades of relationship between a man and a woman. This is love (mutual and unshared), family relationships, devotion, betrayal, betrayal, the desire to use the feeling of another for selfish interests.

I offer a list of some problems and themes on this direction, list of 10 works for arguments, quotes on this topic.

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Approximate topics and problems in the direction.

List of works for arguments.

Related quotes.

Love is the meaning of life, the source of happiness.

• Life is easier without love. …But without it, there is no point. (L.N. Tolstoy, Russian writer).
• When you love, you discover such wealth in yourself! I can't even believe that you can love like that.(A.P. Chekhov, Russian writer and playwright).
• Love is the only thing that sharpens the mind, awakens creative imagination, that purifies and liberates us. (Paulo Coelho, contemporary Brazilian prose writer and poet).
• The most best love- the one that awakens the soul and makes you strive for more. It kindles our hearts and subdues our minds. (Noah Calhoun, the hero of the novel "Diary of Memory" by the modern writer N. Sparks).
• To love is to find your own happiness in the happiness of another. Gottfried Leibniz

Unrequited love.

• Unrequited love does not humiliate a person, but elevates him. (A.S. Pushkin, Russian poet and writer).
• Of all the mockery of fate over a person - there is no deadlier than unrequited love.. (A.M. Gorky, Russian writer and playwright).
• What a pity that what your existence has become for me, my existence has not become for you. (I.A. Brodsky, Russian and American poet and writer of the 20th century).

• All love is happiness, even if it is not shared.(I.A. Bunin, Russian writer and poet).
• For a person who loves with unrequited love, there is no joy in anything. (John Irving, contemporary American writer and screenwriter).

Power of love.

• True love will never die. (Stephen King, contemporary American writer).
• Love is a force that can move mountains.(Dean Koontz, contemporary American science fiction writer).
• Faithful love helps to endure all hardships. (F. Schiller, German poet and playwright of the 18th and early 19th centuries).
• The forces of love are great, disposing those who love them to difficult feats, to endure extraordinary, unexpected dangers. (D. Boccaccio, Italian poet and writer of the 14th century).
• Giving love to others, you get rid of fears; with the power of love you illuminate the space around you, dispelling the darkness. (Osho, Indian religious figure of the 20th century).

Responsibility to loved ones.

• The one who loves must share the fate of the one he loves. (M.A. Bulgakov, Russian writer).
• If you truly love someone, then in addition to the serene happiness that this love gives you, you must also feel responsible for your loved one. (Charlotte Bronte, pseudonym of Carrer Bell, English poet and novelist of the 19th century).
• Great love is always responsibility and care, protection and fear, thoughts about how to arrange and make life easier for the dearest creature in the world. (I.A. Efremov, Soviet science fiction writer of the 20th century).
• Care and responsibility are the constituent elements of love, but without respect and knowledge of a loved one, love degenerates into domination and possessiveness. (Erich Z. Fromm, 20th-century German philosopher and psychologist).
• Love is a fruitful form of relationship to others and to oneself. It involves care, responsibility, respect and knowledge, as well as a desire for the other person to grow and develop. (Erich Z. Fromm, 20th-century German philosopher and psychologist).

Change and love.

• A noble heart cannot be unfaithful.(O. Balzac, French writer of the 19th century).
• To save love, one must not change, but change. (K. Melikhan, modern Russian humorist writer).
• If you are betrayed and your love is deftly turned into profit, then what kind of humanity can we talk about here? (Georgy Alexandrov, philosopher of the 20th century).
• Is the mutable worthy of love? (Saadi, 13th century Persian poet).
• The house is a fortress, and there is no forgiveness for those who are persuaded by flattery, promises or deceit to open the gate to an outsider. (Elena Ermolova).

Selfishness in love.

• Love is one, but there are thousands of fakes for it. (François La Rochefoucauld, 17th century French moralist).
• Let the romantics argue about whether love exists. People practically use it for their own purposes. (Stephen King, contemporary American writer).
• Perhaps we are not able to love precisely because we crave to be loved, that is, we want something (love) from another, instead of giving ourselves to him without any self-interest, content only with his presence. (Milan Kundera)
• Sometimes we mistake the people around us for lottery tickets that only serve to make our absurd dreams come true. (Carlos Luis Safon, contemporary Spanish writer).
• Greed is insatiable. (Pittacus, ancient Greek sage 7-6 centuries BC)

A family. Family relationships.

• "All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." (L.N. Tolstoy, the great Russian writer, philosopher and teacher).
• “Family is the most important thing in the world. Family is the strongest bond of your life." (Johnny Depp, modern American actor, film director, screenwriter).
• “To create a family, it is enough to fall in love. And to save - you need to learn to endure and forgive. (Mother Teresa, a 20th-century Catholic nun, was involved in helping the sick and the poor.)
• "AT family life one must reckon with the thoughts, beliefs, feelings, aspirations of a loved one. Keeping your dignity, you must be able to yield to each other. (V. Sukhomlinsky, Soviet teacher-innovator, children's writer of the 20th century).
• “In family life, the most important screw is love.” (A.P. Chekhov, Russian writer, playwright).

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Does a man who loves only himself have a conscience? How does this love manifest itself in his actions? These and other questions are asked by the Russian Soviet writer E.A. Permyak.

This text raises the problem of selfishness and pride. In it, three brothers received happy hours, thereby gaining the opportunity to manage their time, which could only be obtained by helping and giving attention to others. However, they did not do this and continued to live for their own pleasure, subsequently completely losing the time granted to them. "And what can he say if he also has no conscience left to start happy hours with it?" This issue is current. In our time, selfishness has become widespread. People stopped seeing the world around us, they often began to think only about themselves, their work is aimed only at transforming and improving their own lives. "It's not for nothing that one wise man said: "A man is known in labor."

All his work, all his deeds and thoughts are aimed at shaping his own better future.

This problem occurs in a large number of fiction. So, for example, in the work of N.V. Gogol "Dead Souls" you can see a large number of selfish landowners. One of them is the main character, the landowner Chichikov. From early childhood, he was taught that he had to live richly. This gave rise to feelings of self-love in him. Chichikov, despite the great big problems of society, the poverty and hunger of the peasants, continued to increase his own financial condition. Other landowners did the same. They all worked only for the benefit of their own lives.

If we turn to the work of B. Vasilyev "My horses are flying", then you can see an absolutely opposite picture. Dr. Jansen was a sincere and sympathetic person. He was always in a hurry to visit his sick patients, but he was never in a hurry to leave them. Jansen wholeheartedly wanted to help everyone. This was shown by his last act. When the little boys got in sewer well, Jansen, not thinking about the consequences for himself, rushed to their aid, he understood that he himself was about to die, but this did not stop him. Soon the boys were saved, but Dr. Jansen gave his life for this.

Behind egoism there is no present, and hence no future. Such love does not carry anything of value, rather, on the contrary, it has a great negative impact on the world as a whole.

Updated: 2018-05-17

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Is selfishness dangerous for love? Each person has their own opinion on this matter. In order to answer this question, it is worth understanding, what is selfishness and why can it be dangerous for love? I believe that selfishness can be called a disease that needs to be fought. A selfish person does not consider the opinions of others, puts his interests, needs and problems above all else. He thinks only of himself and demands attention. Love and selfishness are completely opposite. After all, love is the most beautiful and bright feeling that a person can experience. When you love, you trust a person, respect his opinion, love him simply for what he is, appreciate every moment spent together. That is why I believe that an egoist cannot or simply does not know how to love.

I can prove the correctness of my point of view by referring to the novel by L. N. Tolstoy "War and Peace". I propose to recall the heroine of the novel, who was a heartless egoist, Helen Kuragina. She was beautiful, attractive, had many admirers, but she chose the clumsy, unsightly Pierre Bezukhov as her husband, whom she did not admire, and what is there, did not even love him. All she wanted about him was money. She was an unfaithful wife, immediately after the wedding she had a lover. I think this is selfish towards Pierre. Upon learning of this, Pierre decides to break off relations with her, but before he can dissolve the marriage, Helen falls ill and dies. This behavior of Helen suggests that she does not love Pierre, but only uses him to be surrounded by money. This is where her selfishness is manifested, she is not able to truly love Pierre, because when you love, you do not cheat on your loved one.

To make sure that an egoist really does not know how to love and appreciate what he has, it is worth referring to A.P. Chekhov's story "The Jumper". This story shows a vivid example of selfishness in a relationship. Olga Ivanovna - one of the main characters of the story is selfish and wasteful in relation to her husband, Osip Stepanovich. She does not appreciate him, does not respect his work, he does everything so that Olga does not need anything. Because of his love for her, Osip ceased to respect himself, he even turned a blind eye to the fact that she had a lover. I think it's mean to do this to someone who really loves you. But Olga does not appreciate her husband, she does not care about him, she knows that Osip will do anything for her. But only when Osip fell mortally ill, Olga realized that she was losing a dear person. It is unlikely that anyone will love her the same way that Dymov loved. Olga's selfishness is dangerous for Osip, he works without sparing himself to please his wife in everything.

Thus, a person blinded by selfishness can lose happiness, and rash acts can lead to tragedy. No wonder A.V. Sukhomlinsky argued: “It’s better not to create a family if you are an egoist. The meaning of happy love is to give. He who is in love with himself cannot give anything, he only takes and thereby inevitably poisons all the best in love. Egoism interferes here, like a physical illness.

selfishness in literature? in which books is this the most main question? and got the best answer

Answer from Lyudmila Tumanova[guru]
Is it acceptable to put your interests above the interests of other people? K. Akulinin poses this problem in his story. The author describes a case in a polyclinic: the main character Nikitin stood in line for a long time to see a doctor, and when he got tired of it, he decided to give a bribe to skip the line. However, sympathy for other people who were also waiting in line, did not allow him to take advantage of the ill-gotten privilege. The author expresses his attitude to the problem not directly, but through an artistic narrative: a person should not put his own interests above the interests of others. Dostoevsky's novel "Crime and Punishment" can be cited as a literary example. According to Raskolnikov's theory, the interests of some people ("having the right") are higher than the interests of everyone else. Raskolnikov decides to check whether he can cross over human life for the sake of his goals. However, he could not endure the severity of his deed, and could not use the stolen money of the old pawnbroker. The hero of Nekrasov's poem "Who Lives Well in Russia" - the peasant Yermil Girin - took advantage of his position as headman to free his brother from recruitment duty, and enrolled another villager instead of him. After that, Yermil was very repentant, wanted to give up his position and even tried to commit suicide - it was so unacceptable for him to neglect the interests of another person. Despite the fact that people sometimes act immorally, stepping over other people for their own purposes, they tend to experience pangs of conscience and repent of their actions. Main character novel "Eugene Onegin", a representative of the noble intelligentsia, is depicted realistically. His life misfortune is in isolation from the Russian people. He knows neither the country, nor the life of ordinary people, nor their work. Eugene is a man of light, but a man with remarkable inclinations. He is smart, selfless, noble. “The inactivity and vulgarity of life stifle him, he doesn’t even know what he needs, what he wants, but he knows what he doesn’t need, what he doesn’t want,” writes Belinsky. His egoism Belinsky calls suffering egoism, selfishness involuntarily, due to historical circumstances.
It is unlikely that anyone will object to the assertion that Grushnitsky from "A Hero of Our Time" is an egoist. Chernyshevsky considered his egoism to be the lowest, false, grown on the soil of idleness. “As an example of a person who has very developed imaginary, fantastic aspirations, which are in fact completely alien to him, one can point to the excellent face of Grushnitsky ... This funny Grushnitsky is busy with all his might in order to feel what he does not feel at all, to achieve what he entity is not needed. He wants to be wounded, he wants to be a simple soldier, he wants to be unhappy in love, to despair, etc. - he cannot live without possessing these qualities and blessings that are seductive for him. but with what bitterness fate would strike him if it took it into her head to fulfill his desires! He would renounce love forever if he thought that any girl might not fall in love with him. He is secretly tormented by the fact that he is not yet an officer, does not remember himself with delight when he receives news of the desired production, and with contempt throws his former suit, which he was so proud of in words.
We cannot but see that Pechorin is head and shoulders above the people around him, that he is smart, educated, talented, brave, energetic. We are repelled by Pechorin's indifference to people, his inability to true love, to friendship, his individualism and EGOISM. But Pechorin captivates us with a thirst for life, a desire for the best, the ability to critically evaluate our actions. He is deeply unsympathetic to us by the "pathetic actions", the waste of his strength, by the actions by which he brings suffering to other people. But we see that he himself suffers deeply.
Molchalin in Griboyedov's "Woe from Wit" is a typical representative of the Famus era, the personification of servility, lies, flattery, selfishness, self-humiliation for selfish purposes. Chatsky is absolutely the opposite of him.